French president Francois Hollande is in the news these days for having been caught sneaking away from the Elysee Palace (the French version of the White House) on a motorcycle to carry on an affair with a French actress, with whom he's been cheating on his current girlfriend, known in France as the First Girlfriend, with whom he used to cheat on his girlfriend before her, the girlfriend who was the mother of his four children. A couple of years ago Hollande's baby mama and the First Girlfriend, two beautiful women, got into big public cat fight over the guy. (Fortunately for him, the French don't much care how their leaders spend their spare time). Mr. Hollande is 59 years old, balding, and described in a New York Times article as "stout." Polite-speak for "chubby".
And then remember Monica Lewinsky? With whom Bill Clinton had the affair (Or whatever it was they had) that led to his impeachment?
So here we have Bill Clinton, most charismatic, powerful man on the planet. Was the woman over whom he jeopardized his marriage, his career, and by extension the well-being of his country some slender little sylph model ? No, she was Monica Lewinsky, who had, you know, a little meat on her bones.
Anyway, my point here isn't really about weight. It's about attraction, which we tend to think is linked to how much we weigh. But it isn't. For most people, the two aren't linked at all.
Years ago I read an article in Newsweek, I think it was on body image, but in any case the article concluded that what really attracts one person to another isn't physical appearance. People are attracted to people who are comfortable in their own skin. This I believe.
Or, as I've always said and continue to say to my children (ask them ,they'll tell you):
"What are you paying for? The candy bar or the wrapper?"