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The WWJD Moment

1/28/2016

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     Yesterday while the Posse and I were sitting in Panera having our usual Wednesday morning assemblage over coffee, tea, and bagels a young panhandler who's become a regular at our Panera, or at least on  Wednesday mornings while we're there,  wandered into the restaurant and began making his usual rounds.  A tall thin pale white man who appears to be in his early-to-mid-thirties, rather shabbily dressed in a hoodie, coat, stocking cap and jeans, he roams the restaurant asking for money,  lingering at the tables of the old folks, of whom there are quite a few at our Panera in the mornings, some of whom I've seen reach into their wallets or purses and give the man money before he's spotted by a member of the restaurant staff and escorted out. 
     Yesterday he chose to zero in on our table.  "Can't you ladies help me out?" he entreated, for all his shabbiness and twitchiness sounding quite normal and well-spoken.  He hung over us as we looked at him and each other in uncomfortable silence, feeling embarrassed and guilty, not quite sure what to do.
      He sat down at the table next to ours.  One of my friends reached for her purse. 
     "What, are you going to give him some money?"  I asked, reaching for my purse, too, figuring that if she was going to give him money, well, I guessed I would, too.
      "No,"   said my friend,  "but I'll buy him something to eat if he wants."
     We agreed that was a good idea but the man declined our offer of food and drink.  He needed bus money, he said forlornly, to get downtown to the shelter.  After a while he drifted away from us to keep trying his luck at the other tables until a staff member finally escorted him out.  
     When one of the waitstaff came by our table we asked her about the panhandler.  She said he comes in every day now looking for money.  She said she feels bad for him, all the staff does, and they've told him he's free to sit in the restaurant and stay warm but that's not what he wants.  He wants money so they have to tell him to leave.  She wondered why he doesn't just get a job.  She knew they were hiring at Chipotle.
      Within the half hour the panhandler was back inside and this time he was quickly escorted out.  A short time later a police wagon showed up and stayed parked for a while outside Panera.
      I asked the same table worker we'd talked to before if they'd often called the police on the man.  She said that as far as she knew this was the first time they had called the police.  She felt badly about calling the police on the guy but, well, he was getting to be a problem. 
      My friends and I and probably everyone else in Panera talked for a while about the young panhandler,  how he must be an addict, how if he'd been a black man the police would have been called the very first time, within minutes, how giving him money would only be doing him harm, how free bus passes are available, how he must not have been hungry, how nobody needs to go hungry in this town, how there's food and shelter  available for those in need, how we need more mental health resources in this country, how the guy could have at least sit in here and stayed warm if he'd wanted to, how if we'd thought giving him some money would have helped him, well, of course we would have, how none the less some people, when he comes up to their table, do always give him a few dollars, talking, talking, talking about the young man, talking away the pinging of our consciences until one of the Posse members sighed, "I guess that was our WWJD moment."
      Our friend was right.  And we, in truth, were clueless.  Because if Jesus had been present I expect he would have cast out the man's demons out on the spot.  But all we could think of to do was talk.
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AnnO.
1/28/2016 07:50:52 am

Patti,

Interesting post.

There is a homeless guy near us. He has a tent set up (so not sure if that's totally homeless), and he sells paintings. He seems to be quite an interesting artist! Quite a number of locals stop and talk to him on a regular basis. These local folks contemplated on our neighborhood FB page, the possibility of reaching out to him more, by trying to get him a home with 4 walls, instead of the tent. It was asked, if someone had an extra room, especially this winter, maybe taking him in while people pitch in for rent. A few people chimed in that he possibly might not like that, for a number of reasons. So it was decided to keep him supplied with supplies, food items, clothing, art materials, and leave it at that.

Sounds like your guy isn't quite so resourceful.

It's a tough situation, but I think the offer of food is the best. Maybe clothing. But I personally, would refrain from a $$ contribution. That's must my WWAD thoughts!

Ann

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Patti
1/28/2016 12:24:28 pm

Wow, Ann, I'm feeling touched by the kindness and caring of the people in your neighborhood. It reinforces my internal instinct that most people, in general, do care about each others' welfare. We just don't always know what to do. But you and your neighbors definitely have a high "caring IQ". I think you're probably right that your artist would probably prefer being kept in supplies. But I'm sure just knowing he's cared about, that he's part of a community, gives him sustenance. When Claire worked in Queens, NY for Mercy Corp she lived with several other volunteers in an old no-longer-used convent that still belonged to the Catholic parish. There was a homeless woman who used to camp out in the front yard of the convent where there was a recessed area under a roof that gave her shelter from the rain, wind, and snow. The Mercy Corps kids used to leave her food, blankets, gloves, coats, etc. Then one day the recessed area was blocked by a brand new fence that the parish priest had put up to keep the woman away. Claire and her friends were frantic for the welfare of their homeless woman but the priest wouldn't take down the fence and the woman disappeared.
Anyway, as for our Panera guy, you know, I guess we don't really even know if he's actually homeless. One of the Posse swears the next time he shows up she's going to sit him down and get his story. We'll see, I guess.

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AnnO.
2/9/2016 11:07:46 am

Patti, I agree that most people, in general, care about others. And I think that goes across the board, in all areas. Or, at least, I hope that's the case.

It's a mix in my neighborhood. There are a lot of young professionals, from all over the world living around here. I live fairly close to Johns Hopkins hospital, so many come here to study, and work. People seem to go out of their way to make Baltimore a better place because this is HOME now!

I really wonder about the priest that put up the fence. Was that really necessary, especially if the homeless woman wasn't causing any harm? I can't imagine how upset Claire and her friends must have been.

I often wonder about the backstory of folks around here. You'll have to fill us in if your friend gets the Panera guy's story!

Patti
2/10/2016 06:17:22 am

Anne, your neighborhood sounds awesome, of course I'm a city girl at heart. That priest? I know, right? The incident was heart-breaking for Claire and her friends. They felt helpless and the person in power, the priest, wouldn't help the homeless woman, he didn't care. Yes, you do wonder about people's back story. Sadly, drugs and/or mental illness has, I'm sure, crumbled the backstory of many. Always great to hear from you, Anne! 8)

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